“My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.”
― Maya Angelou
“The good news is that I believe every woman who wants to can find a great partner. You’re just going to need to get rid of the idea that marriage will make you happy. It won’t. Once the initial high wears off, you’ll just be you, except with twice as much laundry.
Because ultimately, marriage is not about getting something — it’s about giving it. Strangely, men understand this more than we do. Probably because for them marriage involves sacrificing their most treasured possession — a free-agent penis — and for us, it’s the culmination of a princess fantasy so universal, it built Disneyland.”
― Tracy McMillan
Some women treat marriage as if it is the answer to all their problems, They walk into it fully aware that the man they are marrying is not good or right for them. As women for some reason we have this delusion that we can somehow change a man and make him better.
If he was a liar and a cheater before you married him, what makes you think it will be any different once you are married. It won’t and the only difference will be the change in your last name. I have never been married but I know so many women who end up marrying the man that was lying cheating or abusing them and all of them act as if all of that will suddenly stop once the walk down the aisle. Wake Up Ladies! You can’t teach an old dog new tricks!
Like I said I have never been married but I do know that I love myself way to much to ever settle for less than I deserve ever again. If you have read any of my previous post then you know that a certain man had put me through hell and back over this last year, or more accurately I put myself through it for allowing his lies, and nonsense to affect me in the way that they did. I am glad to say that those days are behind, I will get married one day, but I will never again settle for someone who doesn’t deserve me. When the day does come that I do get married I will never have doubt as to his true feelings or loyalties and I will never have to wonder about where my husband is and who he is with. I will never cower in fear of his anger or his fists and I will know in the deepest place in my heart that I am taking that step for the right reasons.
Just A Thought
“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.”
― Nora Ephron
Have you ever been so wrapped up in a situation or a person that you forget how special you are, because your to busy trying to keep that person up on a pedestal? I have a bad habit of doing this with one person in particular and I realized that I had fallen back into this pattern and it has been making me miserable. I don’t know what the future will bring or how it will all work out but I am done being a victim. A good friend reminded me just how awesome i am today via text and it was like a light bulb went off in my head. I deserve better than what I have been settling for and I am done letting people steal my joy.
I don’t mean to sound arrogant but the fact of the matter is I am a smart, beautiful, funny and sexy woman and anyone who cant see that or appreciate that doesn’t have a place in my life. So from this day forward I am making a vow to myself to never be a victim again and to always make myself priority number one. I will not be a victim of other peoples thoughts and opinions. I will not be a victim to the games that some people play and I will not allow myself to get lost in the drama anymore.
Just A Thought <3 :)
This song has been stuck in my head all weekend :)
**** Fair warning its catchy and fun you may find your self listening to it over and over.